Doubts and uncertainties are what make us human. Feeling unsure about asking a match out for a second date is absolutely normal—but don’t let it hold you back. After the first date, send a simple message letting them know you enjoyed their company, or that you had a great time. Consider sharing a compliment. From there, you can kindly check in with your date on how they’re feeling, and ask if they’re interested and open to meeting up again.

It’s not about you! There are many reasons for a date to decline a second meetup. Just take as much time as you need to brush yourself off, and know that there are other great connections around the corner.